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Things I've Learned
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Things I've Learned
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Not sure if this'll help anybody, but this is what I've learned and experienced along the way.
Always love yourself before loving another.
Seems simple enough, don't you think? It sounds really stupid, even to me.
But the moment you stop loving yourself, it all becomes painfully clear. Never, ever stop loving yourself. It's probably better put by saying, if your happy with who you are, then you're good. If there's something about yourself that makes you unhappy, (I'm talking about you as a person on the inside, not "Oh, I wish I had green eyes" or "Gee I wish I were taller" ) then look deep down and see if you can live with it or not. If not, change it or at least try. That way, you won't feel guilty later on. This pertains to you, yourself. Not circumstances you can't control.
Be careful who your friends are.
This goes without saying, but sometimes it's hard to tell. Some can be a wonderful source of happiness and help while others are a constant headache who only seem to cause you pain. If all they seem to do is cause you grief and "borrow" all the time, they're probably not your friends. If they are cruel or unkind, they're no one's friend. Be really careful of those who take advantage of others. People like that are the worst.
When giving to others, only give what you can afford.
Never give more than what you can do without financially, physically, or emotionally. Don't give to others if the sole purpose is to gain their favor or their love. Especially if it's only for love. IT WILL NOT WORK. You will just set yourself up to being used and having a broken heart. Trust me.
Be true to yourself, first and foremost.
You are you, and no one can or should change that. Yes, there are aspects to everyone's personality that might need a bit of improving (I must be better at sleeping at a decent hour) but other than that, be yourself, be unique.
Never forget who you are. NEVER!
Once you forget who you are, you forget everything that made you happy. You start liking things because others like it or because someone you really like likes it. Before you know it, you don't know what you like or who you are anymore. Just a long, downward spiral that you might never be able to come back from no matter how hard you try.
And of course, love. I know, I know, it makes you blush even thinking about it. Sometimes, me too, but it's important to truly understand it. You will know when someone loves you when they are simply happy being in your presence and loves you for who YOU are. Not what you have, not how you look, but YOU. There will be guys (or gals, I don't judge!) who will promise the world to you, profess their undying love to you…well, it might be true but before you give your heart to them, watch how they treat others. It's a really good indicator. One trick I've learned is to see how they treat people who work at restaurants or fast food places. If they're mean or rude to them, they're usually not a very good person.
There are a couple other things I'd like to add as well.
No one has the right to infringe upon another person's happiness.
Learn how to forgive yourself. You feel bad about something? Fix it. If it cannot be fixed because the moment has passed and cannot be revisited, do something positive that the person you've wronged would have liked. If a situation demanded you do something against your will, you can't blame yourself. If something happened to a loved one and you blame yourself for their misfortune even though there was nothing you could do, let it go. Don't play the "What if?" game. You'll drive yourself crazy. If any of these cannot be done, then remember what you've done and NEVER do it again. That's all you can do in that case.
Regrets. If you are going to do something that may hurt you or someone else, really think about the consequences before you act. Can you live with yourself if what you are thinking about doing blows up in your face? If so, go for it. Fair warning: I guarantee you, it's a lot worse than you think.
Always love yourself before loving another.
Seems simple enough, don't you think? It sounds really stupid, even to me.
But the moment you stop loving yourself, it all becomes painfully clear. Never, ever stop loving yourself. It's probably better put by saying, if your happy with who you are, then you're good. If there's something about yourself that makes you unhappy, (I'm talking about you as a person on the inside, not "Oh, I wish I had green eyes" or "Gee I wish I were taller" ) then look deep down and see if you can live with it or not. If not, change it or at least try. That way, you won't feel guilty later on. This pertains to you, yourself. Not circumstances you can't control.Be careful who your friends are.
This goes without saying, but sometimes it's hard to tell. Some can be a wonderful source of happiness and help while others are a constant headache who only seem to cause you pain. If all they seem to do is cause you grief and "borrow" all the time, they're probably not your friends. If they are cruel or unkind, they're no one's friend. Be really careful of those who take advantage of others. People like that are the worst.
When giving to others, only give what you can afford.
Never give more than what you can do without financially, physically, or emotionally. Don't give to others if the sole purpose is to gain their favor or their love. Especially if it's only for love. IT WILL NOT WORK. You will just set yourself up to being used and having a broken heart. Trust me.
Be true to yourself, first and foremost.
You are you, and no one can or should change that. Yes, there are aspects to everyone's personality that might need a bit of improving (I must be better at sleeping at a decent hour
) but other than that, be yourself, be unique.Never forget who you are. NEVER!
Once you forget who you are, you forget everything that made you happy. You start liking things because others like it or because someone you really like likes it. Before you know it, you don't know what you like or who you are anymore. Just a long, downward spiral that you might never be able to come back from no matter how hard you try.
And of course, love. I know, I know, it makes you blush even thinking about it. Sometimes, me too, but it's important to truly understand it. You will know when someone loves you when they are simply happy being in your presence and loves you for who YOU are. Not what you have, not how you look, but YOU. There will be guys (or gals, I don't judge!
) who will promise the world to you, profess their undying love to you…well, it might be true but before you give your heart to them, watch how they treat others. It's a really good indicator. One trick I've learned is to see how they treat people who work at restaurants or fast food places. If they're mean or rude to them, they're usually not a very good person.There are a couple other things I'd like to add as well.
No one has the right to infringe upon another person's happiness.
Learn how to forgive yourself. You feel bad about something? Fix it. If it cannot be fixed because the moment has passed and cannot be revisited, do something positive that the person you've wronged would have liked. If a situation demanded you do something against your will, you can't blame yourself. If something happened to a loved one and you blame yourself for their misfortune even though there was nothing you could do, let it go. Don't play the "What if?" game. You'll drive yourself crazy. If any of these cannot be done, then remember what you've done and NEVER do it again. That's all you can do in that case.
Regrets. If you are going to do something that may hurt you or someone else, really think about the consequences before you act. Can you live with yourself if what you are thinking about doing blows up in your face? If so, go for it. Fair warning: I guarantee you, it's a lot worse than you think.
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